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Sounds as though Grandma needs to be shown her place. 6 feet under sounds about right for anyone who threatens to kidnap a child!

Depends on who the grandmother is. If she is your husbands mother, there is most likely some kind of conflict with you. If it is your own mother than I would have her evaluated. Best to keep her away whoever the grandmother is for the time beeing. If things dont change then,, the grandmother needs to get some counceling, Where is the father in all of this? Its his job too to put his foot down.

country bumpkin

Yes!

Simple keep the child away from granny  until she  gets  some  help 

This is a matter for the authorities.  Suggest you contact Social Services in your area.

You need to take action before this gets out of control you must get proof of what she is saying as if this ever gets to the Law Courts you will not have a leg to stand on you must start recording everything even dates times and places good Luck

Yvonne57

melandrupert is absolutely correct. Record or write everything down. Ask your daughter to write down what granny is saying. If she has to visit because of a court order, sit outside and wait for her. If they go somewhere, follow them. You must do something especially if there might be a kidnapping. Get an emergency hearing from the court if you have to.

Having been victimized by this behavior by various adults when I was a child, I became an independent thinker and my wanna’b controllers resorted to threats of abusive behavior so much so that I considered murder as an option. But then I understood exactly what to do to clear the situation up. All I needed to do was do nothing, take no action and wait to become a legal adult.  I stopped driving them crazy and they stopped hazing me. Things calmed down and days passed without incidence one after another until a Navy recruiter came to my high school and I I told them to to talk to my parents and not to tell them I asked them to visit. Three weeks later I was in boot camp and I was so happy to be there. I was 17 when I went into the Navy and go out when I was 21…a free man.

Not enough information to say if this is parental alienation.  Although if the grandmother is behaving in the manner described she is acting inappropriately -- no matter what label you put on it.

In parental alienation one parent damages, and in some cases destroys, a child's normal, healthy relationship with the child's other parent.  Unresolved emotional issues drive the alienating parent to pull the child into the adult conflict and choose sides.  The result is a very unhealthy, co-dependent relationship between the alienating parent and child. 

For more information on parental alienation you can visit http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com. 

Good luck!