It seems that you are very confused. I think you really need to take a long hard look at yourself. Why would you have 2 people on a string like that. What makes it right that you hold on to both of them. Are you waiting to see which one is better then release the other. I call that using people to meet your own selfish needs.

Highlands81, I feel very sorry for you. Why are you looking for someone when I am sure you are married to a wonderful wife that has no idea you are on the computer looking for the perfect mate. I think you need to look at your life and see who you really are. The age you have for yourself is 1990 that would make you only 22 yrs. old. You also picked the perfect name for your profile it is the most common names in the U.S. I believe when men keep searching for the perfect person to share there life with, you also encounter a boat load of hurt to the family you disrespect so badly. Take a real good look at yourself and then ask the question to yourself "What is going to happen when your WIFE finally had enough of trying to make you happy. The next big blow that comes to you. A man wants to take care of your wife because you were too busy searching for your perfect mate. You put too many conditions on love. Ask yourself what love is? The answer is easy but if you don't know the heart you will never find the answer.