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Many times with children, it is about attention. When you become involved in a relationship, it takes away from the quality time you may spend with your child. Many kids feel threatened by this loss of attention.

If you can give them some one on one time, maybe have them go fishing or do something that your child enjoys, this may give them time to bond.
You may also want to do more family activities together. For the most part I believe it's the child feeling left out and threatened, they feel like this new addition to the family may threaten your relationship with them.

You need to let your kids know that they will always be special to you, you need to reassure them.

12 years ago. Rating: 8
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I don't know what kind of advice to give you. But, one thing for sure, pay close attention to your son and what he is saying. Also, I would suggest to question your daughters how they are being treated by their step-dad, particularly when he is not there. Lastly, Keep a close eye on the step-dad, especially, concerning your girls.

PLEASE TAKE NOTHING FOR GRANTED!!!

12 years ago. Rating: 7
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12 years ago. Rating: 6
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Children do none see the world in the same way adults do.. Thier intuation is much less clouded than ours. He obviously sees something he is uncomfortable with.. Talk to him. Talk to all of your chilren and try to come to an understanding about how he is interpreting your new household.

12 years ago. Rating: 6
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It could be for attention and also resentment (fear) that one is trying to replace the other.

12 years ago. Rating: 6
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It could be that he misses his father and wishes the two of you would get back together. I would also ask your daughters about the stepdad's behavior though, just to be on the safe side.

12 years ago. Rating: 5
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As a mother,it is important to pay attention to your children's home environment.However children especially boys have a hard time accepting a male partner into their home and replacing their father,I'm remarried,and it hasn't been easy for my two kids to accept their stepfather,we also(me and my husband) have a four year old together,but we have been able to make it work with a lot of effort,step situations are never easy,for the children or the stepparent.In time your son will adjust,tell your partner to give it all the patience and understanding he can,and in time it will get better,the good thing is your son is still young,and he will adjust in time,but allow him that time,he is entitled to it.It will get better.Best of luck!:)

12 years ago. Rating: 5
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If a man were causing this type of reaction in my child then he would not be around long. A negative personality change in my child toward a boyfriend would be all I need to tell him to make sure the door doesn't hit him in the a$$ on his way out. I would not question the reasons for my childs behavior because he may never tell me. I can always get a new boyfriend but never a new child.

12 years ago. Rating: 4
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The step-dad is competing for the #1 spot in his mothers heart. He sees the step dad as an intruder in the relationship with his mom. To get this straightened out… you probably need to see a family relationship councilor…The child’s since of order has made him to be the looser in his relationship with his mother. He went from being #2 after Mom to #3 after Butt head-intruder-thief-mother-F*****.

12 years ago. Rating: 4
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All of the above.I hope your new partner is man enough to get thru it.

12 years ago. Rating: 3
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