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    My boyfriend the co-dependant

    My boyfriend is seeing a pycologist to help him stop being a co-dependant. He is now doing things without asking me to join him. I feel very thretined by this behavior. What can I do? I don't want
    to show him that I am hurting. How should I act or what should I say to him so not to appear needy
    If I tell him that his behavior makes me unhappy and want him to do things with me. What might I expect from him??

    0  Views: 399 Answers: 4 Posted: 7 years ago

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    Coodependents usualy pick partners that needy so it feeds the adiction ,there is a great book on the subject by Melany Beaty Codependents no more and for you Women who love to much .
    You need help as well as you boyfriend

    Its true in order to be co-dependent there needs to be another person or persons. There is a book called Co-dependent no more its very good. Instead of getting upset that he wants to do somethings on his own find somethings that you like to do on your own too. That way you both can share your story about your day when you get together later. You can also just occasionally invite him to come and do something fun along with you.

    It sounds like he is in a growing process with his therapy and trying to better his own behavior. If you become angry at him for it you will loose him. Maybe you too should see a psychologist about your own insecure issues. We all have them and sometimes therapy helps.

    Co-dependency is normally a tango between TWO people so you also moght need some help too.
    good luck
    Dan

    I THINK YOU SHOULD DUMP HIM IF YOU'RE NOT HAPPY. THAT'S TO MUCH STRESS. IT'S BETTER TO GET RID OF HIM NOW RATHER THEN LATER WHEN IT WILL BE HARDER.



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