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    so my boyfriend n i got together a week after we found out i was pregnant with our kid. and i kepttelling him we dont need to be together just cause im pregnant, but i agreed then next thing i know hes coming around n has hickeys on his neck he blames the pills he took that night n said he dont even remember, but his friend told him he didnt have sex with the girl... now i dnt know what to do. ive put my all into this with him and it feels like im only getting part of him.

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    There is an old saying for people like your so called boyfriend when you catch them dead to rights - you gonna believe me or your lying eyes. Take that whichever way you would like I would not put up with it for a minute.

    He's not mature enough or committed enough to say NO to temptation. There has to be Love and Respect before the relationship between him and you will work. He has neither. If he can't take responsibility for his own actions that night how can he take responsibility for a child!?! A child is for the next 18 years! Yes once a cheater, always a cheater.

    Tell him to marry you or leave, he will run and not look back, then sue for child support. Don't lay with another man that you can't trust and are not married to.

    " The behavior of some people & creatures is irrepressible, no matter how they are treated and no matter what the consequences." Take the fable of the scorpion asking the frog to carry him across a river. The frog is afraid of be-in stung during the trip, but the scorpion argues that if he stings the frog, the frog would sink & the scorpion would drown. The frog agrees and begins to carry the scorpion, but midway across the river the scorpion does indeed sting the frog,dooming them both. When the frog asks why, the scorpion say's well I guess its just my nature."

    Look, I agree that cheating is likely in the future. It is especially true if you let him off the hook. Right now the ball is in your court. The way to certain termination of your relationship is to let him off with excuses. Can you forgive him and try this over? Yes , but not without complete accountability and a plan to move forward. The risk you take for the sake of the child might be worth trying to start over. Not knowing the situation its hard to give specific advice. But I would let him know in clear terms , what has to happen if you are to stay with him. It is best to involve a 3rd party, preferably a counselor in this negotiation. He now has to prove to you that it was a mistake etc. If you let him give you excuses you will be sealing your fate for sure. Don't be surprised if it does not work out,but let that reason be because he was not willing to respect you enough to remain loyal. Second chances are okay. Third and fourth chances are careless and will result in perpetual manipulation.

    rodnesia

    i donk even talk to him no more

    once a cheater always a cheater i hear

    serendipity_07

    itis becuase they do not respect themselves enough has really nothing to do with you
    they trash their own morals and ethics and good name

    he is only back for the kid

    RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AWAY FROM THIS LOSER. HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU, RESPECT YOU OR WANT TO BE WITH YOU.
    GET SMART BEFORE YOU ARE TRAPPED IN A LOVELESS RELATIONSHIP JUST FOR THE BABY'S SAKE. RUN

    rodnesia

    for now im going to just not talk to him

    GIRL BYE YES HE WILL CHEAT AGAIN COME CLOSER A BABY DOESN'T MAKE THE MAN CHANGE HE HAS TO WANT TO CHANGE THOSE DAYS ARE OVER

    rodnesia

    i hade 3 from him and he thank instill with him i told him HELL no get out my house sstay with you mom

    he is a cheater but my x was like that and sad i didnt have sex with this girl but the thout girlwho he had sex with was a boy and i leafe his fuck ass

    psyco mum

    what the!? no one can understand your english or your spelling

    rodnesia

    bitch i dint ask you this is wat i said he is cheating and said he ddnt have sex but he did and he thout it was a a girl but it was a boy



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