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my husband been cheating on me 3 times this year that i caught him..maybe more..says he loves me im his life..do you thing hes telling me the truth. i love him so much. or do i move on..

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Vinny

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He's cheated on you 3X that you know of, and he says you are his life..

Could you read this sentence several times, as many times as it takes for you to actually understand what you said and what it means.. Sometimes the forest gets so thick you can't see the trees..

12 years ago. Rating: 4
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doublehelix

Vinny, can't vote you up enough :)

commented 12 years ago

sweetme

hes got me so confused.. im a wreck. i cant sleep. my family said leave but 20 years,,i know with out trust theres no life

commented 12 years ago

sweetme

where from vinny

commented 12 years ago

Vinny

California.. Does this make a difference in my opinion??

commented 12 years ago

sweetme

just asked..i have read it over and what your saying is so true

commented 12 years ago

IluvJesus

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Take it from me,a woman who was in a ten year marriage with someone who cheated constantly...it's o.k. to move on,there is light at the end of the tunnel,just like any open wound it takes time to heal,but once you do you will never look back,if I hadn't moved on I wouldn't be married to my husband now who loves me and treats me like a diamond.Good luck,I hope your final decision brings joy and happiness into your life.

12 years ago. Rating: 2
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Colleen

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What would you tell your best friend to do? The one you love most and would never want to have to go through daily pain and wondering. What would you tell them?

12 years ago. Rating: 1
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sweetme

leave is the words i would use.. he a looser i would say

commented 12 years ago

Colleen

Now, do you love yourself as much as you love your friend? That's the only way you will take you own advice ;)

commented 12 years ago

sweetme

yes.. but where do i start. im so stressed that i can barely take it..hes snoring so relaxed.. ohh my

commented 12 years ago

Colleen

Start by taking a deep breath and realizing he's not really worth the angst you're going through. You are better than being cheated on. Do not let him drag you down to his low morales. Being alone might seem scary but it's better than being treated as a floor mat. You'll gain your self respect back as soon as you're away from the one sucking it out of you.

commented 12 years ago

sweetme

thanks so much.. hes draining me. lost interest in everything..well going to get some sleep or try..

commented 12 years ago

Colleen

Take care and start placing yourself first. You know the answer. It's just a scary one to make. Be well and I hope you get some sleep.

commented 12 years ago

Vinny

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SweeTme, Its a no brainer-- I really do sympathize with you but you are going to get a grip on this and move on.. Your love for him now is really not love, its hurt mixed with anger-- The love is gone, you just do not see it that way yet. Its a terrible thing getting treated this way and it hurts like hell but you are going to need to walk away, it can only continue to hurt you.. Also, be advised that when you do walk away, he will come chasing you and offer the world as his promise to love you and never do it again... KEEP WALKING, he is out of control, you will not change him and he will never change for you, as soon as he feels he has you back, he'll be on the streets again.. Believe me!

12 years ago. Rating: 0
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sweetme

i know what your saying my family saying the same.. i love him but i hate him is what i feel.. well im off to bed now to try and sleep..thanks so much for your words.. will be on tomorrow

commented 12 years ago

doublehelix

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Sweetme , like you said your 51 years old, 20 years of been together....that's a lot of memories.
i don't know how to answer this though but it's all up to you, do you think your ready to accept these cheating that are occurring right now, do you think they are fair, ask him if he would stop and actually devote himself to you like he says he loves you. if he doesn't stop then it's up to you to ignore, live with it, or separate. This is a question only you can answer as it is you who knows this man more than we do. hope all the best in your decision, good luck :)

12 years ago. Rating: 0
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sweetme

yes we did all u mentioned hes good for a week then im left with no attention again.. no loving..holding..been a month that he cheated on me and im bk to where it was..I know what i have to do.. If only i could be strong enough..love hurts

commented 12 years ago

cgamble

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you need to cheat on him, let him know your going to, then do it, by chance you just might find a nice person who actually care about you

12 years ago. Rating: 0
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Valek

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I think you need to really believe that you deserve someone who will love you better than this. I know how hard it is to detach from someone who you love but love belongs in the eyes, the touch and the caring.. not deeds that do not match the words.

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sweetme

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like hes telling me what i want to hear right.. so i dont leave..im 51 and hes killing me..got to be better life out there. just after so many years it hurts to leave all behind we made together... what do u me by ignoring me???