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    My 5-year-old grandaughter acted really bratty right before I took her home. Should I have said anything to her mother (my daughter)

    She DEMANDED more, more, more ice cream. And then she made a big deal of picking her nose and was more than  gross about the behavior. I told my daughter (her mother)  Mom was NOT happy that I mentioned her daughter’s offenses. Oooph! Do you think I should have kept my mouth shut. Mom and daughter are going to a psychologist.  (Maybe it is I who needs the psychologist!)

    +5  Views: 659 Answers: 9 Posted: 12 years ago
    lindilou

    Sounds like she's testing your waters...or your mettle! 5 year olds can do these things!!And 13 year olds and 17 year olds too!! ;D

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    You did fine, I would want to know if anybody wanted to report on my child for bad behavior. Your daughter has a problem, not you.............

    itsmee

    (((Julie)))

    Absolutely spot on...now your grandchild knows that you won't be enabling the behaviours by keeping mum...from Mom!!   :)

    itsmee

    I don’t think Mom will say anything to her daughter. I think my comment just went right by her.

    Dont worry, you did the right thing. Children need dicipline at an eary age to become well adjusted adults. I am sorry your daughter does not agree with you..

    Let your daughter know that the child will be made to behave, whenever she is with you.  Ask your daughter if she wants to know about it and if not, let that be the end of telling her anything.  I'm guessing that your granddaughter probably behaves better, whenever she is with you.

    itsmee

    From what I hear, my grandaughter has some very bad behaviors at home. She is almost consistently good over here. You got that one, Ducky.

    Did you deal with her behavior whilst she was in your house ?You are within your rights to reprimand the child whilst she is acting out, and yes you should tell her mother/parents, so they can do the same.

    Was your daughter upset because you mentioned your granddaughters behavior or was she upset the child was acting badly?

    itsmee

    My daughter seemed to just blow my comments off. It appeared to me that she didn’t want to hear them. It appeared that she was very very aware that her daughter was acting that way and my comments only made her feel worse. My daughter doesn’t seem to want to talk to me about her daughter.
    That’s a good question, clu.
    clu

    Thanks itsmee. I don't know if you reprimanded your granddaughter but I think you need to let her know her behavior does not set well! Like (no more ice cream for young lady) Just so shes aware grandma has got her number!

    I think your daughter is the one with the bigger bratty attitude.

    itsmee

    I read your response to my husband. We got a laugh. You’re kinda right!

    I forgot to mention that I adore my little grand daughter. I really really don’t want her to behave in ways that will turn people against her.  Boo Hoo.

    Everyone has the opportunity to understand themselves and others by studying developmental psychology.


    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Developmental_psychology  


     

    lindilou

    I discovered a simple thing...tell no one to do anything and everything will get done.... :)
    Ask my kids...I learned long ago not to hassle others by dictating anything..we're all on the same trip that way..a concept that others find difficult to comprehend let alone achieve. Peace. :)
    itsmee

    I have a degree in Early Childhood Education and the experience of having a daycare/preschool in my home for 20 years and the experience of writing a book and a newspaper column on the subject. When it happens directly to me with my own I suddenly lose all perspective and confidence in how to handle matters. I will read the wikipedia material. Maybe I need a brush-up course.


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