4 Answers

Your house your rules,explain to her and the kids if they are not going to show some respect to your home,they are better off not coming over as it is all too stressful for me and your father.If you want to see your grand kids,meet up at a park and let them run riot there.

I found myself in the same situation, you must control the visits. Next time she want to come over suggest you and your husband visit her this way you can leave at any point the kids starts in. Also, tell her to call before she comes you and her father may have plans. I discovered that the kids was driving my daughter crazy at home and she came over for relief. However, these are her children and she must learn to control them. It worked for me and I hope it will work for you. Good Luck! 

YOUR IN CHARGE WHEN THEY GO TO THEIR HOUSE THEIR IN CHARGE BUT WHEN THEIR AT YOUR HOUSE THEIR KIDS AGAIN AND YOUR MOM AND YOUR IN CHARGE THATS WHAT MY MOM TELLS MY BIG BROTHER.

You're so blessed to have grandchildren.  Please say "Amen".