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GO TO COURT.  You have no idea what will transpire if you aren't there.  Why you haven't contacted a lawyer or at least a legal aid service is beyond me. 
 Would you let an oozing wound on your face go untreated?   Get in there and make sure your financial situation isn't compromised with this divorce.  You could end up with all the bills on your shoulders, no alimony, no child support, have to move from your home.....
OMG, what is wrong with you.

Go to court so you can stand up for yourself.  If you aren't there, whatever he says, goes....

I third the "GO TO COURT". Like the ladies answers here, get yourself up and make yourself worth something. Doormats aren't an attractive role to play all your life.