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    Being Harrassed at work...What do I do?

    I have been working at my job now for 1 1/2 years. I came from corporate america working with major companies and decided to go and work with the state. I made this decision, because of the fickle decline of the economy and corporate america with job layoffs/stability. My thinking was that a position with a federal or state agency would mean a better stable job. The problem is I didn't think hard enough about the gender I would be working around or the mentality of the people. Well, I am female and I work around and with ALL FEMALES. I never been on such a LONG roller coaster ride in my life! Moods swings, low self esteem issues, insanity, childish tatrums, jealousy/envy and total unprofessionalism. The problem, I never thought that I would be judged from head to toe, how I walk, what kind of shoes I have on, how I speak, what I eat, what kind of car I drive, OMG. To make matters worse, my manager is a complete insane tarant! She asked me one day "way are you all dressed up?" I wore a suite, mind you other people have worn the same. The person that I work with is afraid that I am smarter and more competent than her, so she decided to stab me in the back by going and telling the psycho manager when I go to the rest room, when I go to lunch and come back etc. I know, just rediculous things. But, the manager LISTEN and started monitoring me and TOLD me to only take 2 minutes for rest room breaks, I shouldn't speak to anyone, because I need to stay on task. I am the hardest worker around there and EVERYONE outside of my department has noticed. I have even gotten compliments from outside, where they have actually called the manager and praised my professionalism and excellent customer service. Instead and appreciating my contributions, this manager continues to harrass me because she is buddy's with the people that kiss her ass and do her dirty work with her. I am not a part of a clique and never has been, I believe in courtesy, treating people with respect, professionalism, helping people. These qualities are completely ignored and envied. The workers are jealous and envious and never even gave me a chance. Any advice would be appreciated, because I am constantly being working under very stressful conditions, and I am between a rock and a hard place. I can't just up and quit, because of the economy. Also, the manager put me on a Professional Improvement Plan the 3 month of employment and I have been on one ever since. HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP

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    I could be wrong but I believe state offices should have a human resources dept. If you have one, there is where you should take your complaint. This way everything is documented should you be fired or should you choose to leave the job due to undo stress of the emotional harassment. You can use any written complaints you've given the H.R. dept if you choose to file for unemployment benefits if you lose or quit your job.

    Your going to get canned sooner or later. Race or age might be an issue. If so see an attorney and sue the hell out of them. They won't fire you if they know you've taken legal action. How much worst can it get? My boss stopped after I tore his ass up at an out of town football game.

    I'm sorry to hear about your problem, it's gotta be tough. Once your work for the city it is easy to get a transfer to a different department, maybe your could keep an eye out for an opening in another department. The problem as you said is jealousy and butt kissing and don't forget politics.


    You are in a tough spot, either kiss the bosses bottom, or just keep doing your best. Many times I have had co-workers get jealous at the quality of my work, but you just have to tough it out. Maybe you can find a better job? Keep looking on what's out there might be time to consider a move to a new area? There has to be someone higher up you could talk to, make sure they aren't buddy buddy with your boss. Maybe someone who doesn't like your boss higher up? I sure hope things work out for you. Best wishes.

    Revenge is a dish best served cold. A very stupid gesture needs to be done on their part. Start thinking of some type of way to get back at them without doing any harm. The more inconvienent for them the better. Your brain will enjoy this exercise too. Put an add in the paper with their phone number that sells something that will get alot of calls. Go to a sporting good store and buy some skunk scent. Its a small bottle. Pour it on ground by the drivers side door. Just do stuff that cant be traced back to you. Have fun with with it. I did several of these things to some real as%&(##s at work. They deserved every bit of these inconveniences. Pretty soon the lost all interest in their habits , and got the feeling of hopelessness in their lives , thinking alot of bad stuff has been happening in their lives and they dont know why. You will enjoy the feeling that you disrupted their lives. Call Jehovahs Witness place, tell them you want to learn about their religion. Give them that persons name and tell them to pick them up saturday morning at 7:30 at their house. be there a block away when three van loads of people show up at their house. Take some donuts and enjoy the moment. You will be laughing your ass off. When you call use a pay phone , not cell or home phone. I sure enjoy going to work these days hearing about these peoples problems. Enjoy.

    All I can say is I am very truly sorry and I do indeed feel your pain. I have been working for the same big company for 35 years and have to go to work everyday and put up with this type juevenille behavior out of everyone everyday. It is truly sad, I have gotten to where I just sit in my cubicle do my work answer any questions anyone ask if it is related to work. Other than that I just work work work and get up and go home. I cannot quit my job as I am my only income but I can tell you that it is horrible for people to do others that way and I for one do not understand this behavior at all especially out of people that are all over 40 years of age. I am very sorry.

    Dang gone it I think she must work for the Postal Service

    matheneyg

    Or She may work for FEDEX

    KEEP UP THE GOOD FIGHT SOMETIMES THE SMALLEST THING CAN CHANGE THE WHOLE SITUATION. IF THESE PEOPLE ARE THIS BAD THEY WILL EVENTUALLY BURN OUT ORTURN ON EACH OTHER. 5YEARS AGO I HAD A HEART BREAKING EXP. AT WORK AND HAD TO FIND SOMETHING ELSE.I TOOK THE FIRST JOB I COULD FIND. MADE ALIFELONG FRIEND.AND MOVED ON ,TOOK ANOTHER JOB THAT LEAD ME INTO BUSSINESS THAT LEAD ME TO WHERE I AM TODAY IN THE BEST SITUATION I HAVE EVER BEEN IN. PS I FORGOT TO MENTION.ALONG THE WAY SOMEONE REMINDED ME THAT VENGENCE WAS NOT MINE SO I STOPPED PRAYING FOR IT AND STARTED PRAYING FOR GUIDENCE..GOD BLESS YOU IN ALL YOU DO

    I know exactly how you feel. I have a similar problem on my job. I'm not part of their little clique either. Sorry. Don't know what to tell you. If you find out let me know.

    HEY, WHY DID YOU TELL ON ME!?!?


     



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