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Q: What are the rules for the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner? Who comes and who doesn't? I'd like to spend as much time as possible with visiting friends and relatives, but I also want the ceremony to remain a "surprise."

A: There are no rules! The guest list is pretty much up to you -- it can be as simple as you two, your immediate families, and wedding party and their spouses and/or significant others. Or, you can make it a bash and invite all your out-of-town guests. It's a very good opportunity to maximize your quality time with visiting friends and relatives -- you'll be more relaxed than at the wedding, and you'll have more time to chat. And don't worry about ruining the "surprise" for them; they don't come to the actual ceremony rehearsal -- that's only for the wedding party and your parents. Everyone else joins you afterward for dinner.