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You should both sit down and really talk, not argue and see if you can come to some kind of understanding. Married couples are going to have disagreements, that just being human. My wife and I have been married 38 years and we argue sometimes, but we'll talk it out and come to an understanding. If things get any worse, you may need to see a marriage counselor . Good luck to you and your husband.

Everyone must find their own happiness. If you feel you and your husband have tried everything to make the marriage better, then why continue? There's too many miserable people in this world. Everyone should find what makes them happy. Forget the bad and useless unions.

Now, think to yourself, what I wrote there, is that truly your marriage and life?? Think honestly about it.

Did you take that vow, For Better or Worse? If so, did you really mean it?

country bumpkin

Peoplelover: I feel that in this day and time, most people just don't take marriage seriously anymore. People these days view it as just some casual affair and don't seem to want to put in the time or effort required to make a marriage work once they realize it isn't all fun and games.
Please don't misunderstand me, I don't expect for anyone to stay in a relationship if he/she is unhappy. But...I do think divorce should be the second to last resort a person should take before he/she divorces a spouse.( The only other option would be to kill the person, and I'm not so much into taking peoples lives). LOL
Kisses and hugs, From the Bumpkin.

To disagree is in itself not a bad thing, unless there's verbal or physical abuse. If you can be civil to one another and not be on the same page may be a good thing. It shows that your spouse is concerned about important issues in regards to the family/relationship. I don't think a day has gone by in forty years were my wife and I didn't disagree on something. As long as she doesn't put me in a choke hold, I fine with it.

My XOL and I get along great, now, after a divorce and we both understand that love is so much better than romance. We agreed to certain basics and I consider universal truths in our relationship. I am always wrong if we disagree. She is always right. I can do anything I choose to do outside the house subject to her disapproval. This works great for us because as everyone knows, I can really screw up. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses…we just figured that the one who is strong in any given situation should be in charge. Deal making is part of a relationship…who handles the books, who cooks and how much, household duties are not just a woman’s place.  And after all required experiences what is a fair split? 

You disagree??? Ummm did you want to marry yourself??? nothing is free in the world you have to work to have a functional relationship.