Your wife may need to feel important and she is helping you in some small way to begin with. Try to find out things that are important to her. Ask her questions about it,or,ask a friend to help you. Her friend that is closest to her. Beware her friend my know alot about her and her feelings.( perhaps even more than you really want to know)... but what ever you find out... about her do your best to make her feel important and needed. Everyone needs to feel needed.Even You if you'll look real close you want to be near someone that makes you feel important and good about yourself. Good Luck!!!