All depends on your perspective, meaning some things we see as bad, are used to teach us somethings about ourselves or life or about others.  Pain is not enjoyable, but its helpful in teaching not to do somethings sometimes.  Parents are human and make mistakes because they are flawed human beings, or they were hurt as children and pass this on to their offspring's. Hurt people sometimes hurt people.  But your perspective should be to learn from their mistakes, take the good they taught and be a better parent to your kids and forgive them and move on.  Don't let them keep you from living your BEST life ever! You are NOT your PARENTS!!!