all I have to say is let her go if you feel the need to sleep with someone else. Why would you not want to loose her, obviously you don't want her or respect her or you would not want to sleep with someone else. Just what if you did sleep with this other women and she gave you an std or something worse that you take home to your wife, is that fair??? Just remember when you sleep with someone you are sleeping with everyone they have been with and anyone willing to sleep with a married man believe it or not, you are not you are not the only one she has slept with. Seems to me you are quite a bite selfish. Have enough respect for your wife to leave her first, she does not deserve to be humiliated and hurt by your immature and selfish actions. If you love your wife and don't want to lose her "DON'T DO IT". Once you go over that __________line, you can't get back. She "WILL" find out, WHEN THE TRUST IS GONE, IT'S OVER...........Ask yourself is this other woman worth losing it all for?????