im so sorry you are going through all this, i live with a man who is very controling he woke me a few nights ago and started shouting that he didnt like what i was dreaming about he follows me whenever i go out shopping ,times me even stands outside the toilet to check im not speaking on my mobile phone .he checks my receipts from shops but gets angry when he cant see the time as i might have been somewhere else,when i walk home to or from work if i cross the road in a slightly different place he accuses me of having been in a car.i had thought i was the only person to be living this personal type of hell but it sounds like you are to.i should say that i have never been unfaithful or played any games like that all i do is sleep eat and go to work.he works at the same place as me so can watch me there to.Lately i dared join a book club one hour once a month hes going mad imagining all kinds he says hes followed me and im not there but i am its all retired ladies so no threat to him but im gonna be strong and keep going even though hes not spoken to me other than to shout abuse and make rude gestures for 12 days now.iguess the answer is to leave but its my house last year i tried but it was hellish and i gave up i hope you find a way out good luck i somtimes think i will die before i get any peace.x