It doesn't work. I'm 65, married 42 happy years and have had many girl friends over the years. All have ended one of two ways. This goes for "in person" and "internet" friendships. One; other people start talking about our friendship and cause problems in the relationship with my wife, or Two; the female wants more to the relationship then just friendship. I still enjoy my relationships with females, but they are at arms length (long arm.) Truely it is worth the time and effort to put all your energy into the friendship with your spouse. Then when one of you dies, there will be no regrets. Your lives will have been spent with your best friend.....and lover!