I have been married for 31 years.We have 2 children and when they were very young I discovered solid evidence that he was cheating on me. He admitted cheating. MY loving parents strong morals were passed on to me. I would never consider cheating on my husband. I fould a way to forgive him and move on. HIS ACTIONS REMAIN DEEP IN MY HEART AND I WILL CARRY THEM ALWAYS. I Wanted you to know my past. Most of the time I would not support divorce.In your case You should imediately file for a devorce. His actions are repulsive and any Judge would give help you when he delivers the settlement,He knows you may need special care or die, Selfishly he has moved on without you. Do you have a dedicated docter or minister that could advise you of a good lawyer. JAYNE