Thank you all for your kind words. The adulterer was my father who by accounts of neighbours was a spoiled, egocentric man. He was the male sibling and had one sister. His parents were both born in China and emmigrated to Canada in the early 1900s. I know my father had a mean streak - he was mean to me. Looking back, I never felt totally at ease around him. Only after my mother's death and my father's subsequent death have my aunts and uncles opened up to talk about my early years. I was five years old when my parents divorced. I'm searching for any indication of abuse, incest, inappropriate behaviour that might be visible to someone else. My insight is limited.