Coodependents usualy pick partners that needy so it feeds the adiction ,there is a great book on the subject by Melany Beaty Codependents no more and for you Women who love to much . You need help as well as you boyfriend

I tryed that years ago no one cares , get on with you business.

I always wanted to change the world ,got involved in youth movements (When I was younger )Now Im a lott viser If you want to change the world you have to change you self .Make it work for you ,the old saying cant beat them join them it works .

Absolutly if you dont grow and set in you ways you are stuck,just make sure its you who changes you mind not other people changing it for you But first you need to know who you are .That is the only way to learn the lessons of life.