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Shallow or not, if a person is uncomfortable dating someone for any reason, they should not be dating him/her. It cannot have a good result.

It should be up to them really,whatever they are comfortable with. They should not be accused of being racist just because they have an opinion. There is a talent show on TV here in the UK at the moment, a few nights ago there was a black comedian on , one of his so called jokes went like this, he shouts at the audience -all the white people say yea, then shouts - all the black people say yea, then he said to one of the judges who is quite well know, you shout twice because you're mixed race. Now my point is, had a white person said that, they would have been accused of being racist, there would have been all hell let loose on the TV and in the newspapers, but because a black man said it it's fine. 

Ducky

Agree.

No it is not shallow,,it is choice,I am part Aboriginal, i am neither black or white,,i once had a girlfriend and we were getting a bit serious,,,one day we were talking,,and she said she had read this article that said if a white person had a child to a part black person the baby could come out fully black..we did not stay together, it is her choice,and i understand it,,2 people walking down the street, one white and one part black..possibly pass for 2 whites,,and one newborn black child,,though it would be a rare happening,,it could happen,,,mothers and fathers would always like to see some of themselves in a child.....i do not see it as racism,,i see it as choice..............................................................................................Always nice talking

its the whole person that counts not just their skin, that's just racist really!

Yes, it is……….

Love is love, color should not matter.

Go out with people you enjoy and with whom you are comfortable.  If a darker skin tone somehow distracts from a friendship, you might want to visit the reasons. I wouldn't worry about it. 

The darker the berry, the sweeter the juice.

The real reason and expressed reason may have nothing in common. Explaining "NO" is not what anyone likes to do especially with an unspeakable reason why not...That could reveal more about them than they would dare to convey. "Maybe next week ask me." is an answer I have used and others have used with me. A lack of social tactical skill is revealed when someone responds in such an odd way. The unanticipated question, drifting thoughts, off in LA-LA land, and someone asked...What?...the last thing on their mind falls out of their mouth like a partly consumed mouth full of food....and there it is.       

Only, only go out with people you are attracted to.  Attraction is a complex emotional, psychological,  subconscious and intellectual process.  Attraction knows what it is doing, for the benefit of us all.  If you are attracted to it, it's ok, if not attracted to it, probably not ok in the long run. Follow your gut instinct . . . follow your attraction!

My answer would be yes if the reason that you won't is because of the way others feel about it. When it comes to a personal relationship only you should make that decision. How do you feel?  If you think that it feels right, then stand up for you and your beliefs. It is your life, not theirs.

I ask God, Higher Power, what-ever to bring their choice for me into my life.  Works for me. If I believed in the Power of Fame and Fortune....I would have bought my first wife who would have ruled my life and stole everything from me to get me to my present state.