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    I fell in love with an ex neighbor of mine and I still I cannot shake her. It's been 4 years. My good friend say forget her but easier said than done. I had seen her with a guy at a grocery store several months ago and I was with a woman friend of mine. This sparked curiosity in her. She runs down the aisle to see who I am with and stares at me. I heard her say to him that the guy who likes me and he has a look of disgust on his face, seems kind of high schoolish. We messaged each other sporatic

    We messaged each other sporatically on facebook. I told her I still think a lot about her and that I wanted to see her in person. She claimed she was more depressed than ever. I asked why and she never answered. In fact, she wouldn't answer most of my questions. I got annoyed and said don't play me. She said she talks about me to him and I asked what was said and why does she do that. No answer. I told her that she needs to grow up, she is in her early 40's. It probably pissed her off. Do you feel that I had a right to lace into her and tell her what I feel is the truth? And finally, why does she talk about me to him? She told me she wasn't interested but she seems to lie about things. Does a woman always mean what they say and why would she lie about this, assuming that she is lying. Thanks for your answers my friends.

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    She's a player. Forget her. If you were meant to be with her, you would be. You're not. This speaks volumes to me. I think you're more in love with an idea or a fantasy than you are her. I say good luck to the guy she is seeing and playing head games with right now. Consider yourself lucky. 

    prettysmartguy

    I was just saying to myself the same thing about the idea or fantasy part. She is pretty but we never had the opportunity to get to know each other, therefore, how could I be in love. Thanks Colleen
    Colleen

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    Always pay attention to your own internal waning flags. You noted them enough to question them. You just needed confirmation. She's in her 40's and has issues. You do not need her baggage ;)
    prettysmartguy

    I agree. I found out they are living together which helps me to forget. As they say "I will never love this way again". I never understood why playing games is so important to people and at the same time say "I can't find anyone descent". Contradictory. I hope you are happy in your life, you're smart and thanks.
    Colleen

    Moderator
    I am very happy in my life, thank you. Someday, you too will find happiness. She is just not the one who can bring it to you. Enjoy yourself first, be your own best friend, you will then attract the right sort of girl to you because you will be showing the confidence in yourself that good women find so enchanting. ;)

    Four years ago? I'd say move on. A lot of water under that bridge. You don't want it to get stagnant....

    prettysmartguy

    Thanks for the rapid response. Great advice

    How do questions like this get past me!!!!

    "That's the guy who likes me", with a disgusted look.  
    NOT, "That's the guy I like", with a smile.

    Do you really need it to be spelled out for you? 



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