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    my boyfriend is almost perfect ,good with my 4 kids witch 3 are not his biologicaly.loves me unconditionally,treats me ,and my family greate. dont even make a diffrence in mine ,and his child ,and the three i have with my x. takes care of all finanaces,but he use to be a heavy iv drug user ,and he has resently in the past 2 weeks relapsed a few times,but lies to me about it. he has never lied about anything ,but his relapes over the 3 years we have been together ,i love him more then i knew was

    he has turned his turned his life around so much in the three yrs,more then what most addictits at his extence could. my children love him so much ,even my x husband children consider him more of a daddy then there own daddy,even though they see there real daddy some what on a regular basic. me ,and my children love him,i just want to get some advice on how to get thru the trust issues. we beleive it is way worth saving. please help me !!!! desperet to stop fighting ,and thing's to go back to normal. he promoise he is thru ,and he says if he has a issue with feeling like he wants to relapes he will come to me,but the few times in three yrs he has proved succusessfully.thank you depreat in love.

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    Does he go to NA?  If not maybe he could try it- or AA (though some AA groups aren't accepting of other addictions).  He sounds like a gem!  I wonder what's going on- sometimes there is a specific reason someone "slips" sometimes there isnt.  You can gently bring this up and be supportive.  If he is still in denial then you could go to a support group.

    desperate in love

    he is not in denial,he finally admits after a long stressful fight. he has been to na ,aa,and rehabs in the past.he says he dont tell the truth right away because he looks up to me ,and dont want to let me down.he was depressed ,and also his old drug running buddy came around. his old running buddy claimed to be wanting help to ,the only reason we allowed him in our house,but it's like he seen him ,and romanced the memory of his old drug use.
    doolittle

    yup that happens. bye bye to old buddy!

    If your partner is as good as you say,he deserves all the support he can get from you.Has he tried Narcotics Anonomous,as for trust issues this is part and parcel of living with an addict.As for lying to you,he is showing signs of guilt by trying to cover up the fact that he is using again.Get him into NA and take one day at a time.



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