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    For those of you who are in an unhappy marriage, why are you staying together?

    +3  Views: 970 Answers: 11 Posted: 12 years ago

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    There is more to divorce than just splitting.  A lot of emotions are in play, too.............

    ed shank

    So very true. I've seen couples carry hatred for twenty plus years after they divorced.
    Ducky

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    What an awful way to live. What must that do to the insides of the "hater"?
    Bob/PKB

    Yep. You'd think you could put it behind you and not let if affect the rest of your life, but some don't see it that way. Pity. It only took me 16 months to put the hate aside. Boy, did I feel (and look) better with that hate exorcised.

    most of them stay together for the money, or for the children's sake. And this may come as a shock to you, but some people take the marriage vows seriously . They know they have promised to God and many witnesses that they are going to stay together for better or for worse.

    Bob/PKB

    Right on the money, mycatsmom. Superior.
    mycatsmom

    Thanks for the vote of confidence, PKB

    I haven't had to deal with that situation. I like her more today then when we were kids.

    Ducky

    Moderator
    That is a nice thing to say ed. How great for both of you. I hope that she feels the same about you. :)
    ed shank

    She keeps hanging around the house, I think she likes me too.
    Ducky

    Moderator
    xo and xo...to each of you!
    mycatsmom

    I'm happy for you and your wife, Ed

    I've asked my parents why they do that, and either they don't know themselves or they don't want to think about it. Maybe negative attention is still more bearable for them than no attention at all.

    Bob/PKB

    I've been single since 2003. At this "empty nest" time, it would be nice to have companionship. Perhaps just the fact they are not "alone" makes up for being "lonely".

    I'm guessing that not too many will touch this question!   Yikes!

    Clonge

    I had this in mind; thought I'd take a chance.
    Ducky

    Moderator
    It is a good question with dozens of different reasons I'm sure but it's pretty much a one on one discussion, I think.
    ClevelandRick

    Won't touch this!!!!!!!!!!!

    For the sake of the dog. We have a plaque on oiur outside wall "We are staying together for the sake of the dog" True not joking.

    Time can change everything so if you were happy once maybe in time you can be happy again.

    Bob/PKB

    ......but it won't be as easy as a magician pulling a quarter out of someone's ear.

    You've received all the top reasons:
    Money  (not enough or not wanting to split it)
    The kids
    The dog
    Took vows seriously
    Hope relationship will improve
    Negative attention better than none
    Rather be married and lonely than single and alone
    Some people are too proud to admit they've made a mistake.  
     

    yikes . im happy after 31 years together..we'll see what the next 31 bring..

    Bob/PKB

    More happiness. I'll be looking for a report on November 29, 2042.

    I stayed and stayed because I was afraid.  


    Fortunately I have found happiness with a truly wonderful man.


    Miracles do exist.

    Some women just don't know any better,some have no one to turn to,wouldn't know how to pay a bill or manage money.They are made to feel worthless and useless ,some have been threatened by thier husbands that they will be tracked down and killed if they were ever to leave.I think the fear factor and the unknown has a lot to do with staying in a unhappy marriage.

    Ducky

    Moderator
    For sure.


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