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    why wont josiah come home?

    his dad is sick in the hospital and he dowsnt have a drivers license. he is taking care of his dads horses and cutting logs on his sawmill to build his dad a small cabin on his dads land because the mobilehome he has now is unlivable. i want him to come home for a visit. he can hitch a ride with his aunt, i have been going upnorth to see him every two weeks with the kids but it is getting very costly, yet i cannot get a brewath of fresh air without him. i am having a hard time enjoying my life now that he is gone. we were meant for eachother and i think after a few months apart his dad will ask him to stay because he wants/needs him to help run the sawmill for income. he is young and very smart. i love him so much. it feels like no two people have ever been this accepting and confortable with eachother in the history of the world. meant for eachother.

    0  Views: 233 Answers: 2 Posted: 14 years ago

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    Give him time and space,let him be his own person and make his own decissions,i'm sure he will eventually get back to you.His dad needs him at the moment.

    Would you rather he be with you and live with the guilt that he didn't do all he could do to help his dad when he needed him the most? You might say you're meant to be together but I have a sneaking suspicion that he is enjoying his time away. You sound very needy. Loosen up your hold before he does just what you fear most...stays with his dad.

    hammock

    thats not very helpful. you can tell by the details to my question that i already know why he cant come back. i am proud of him for doing right by his family. i needed to vent. it helps just to say it out loud sometimes. planting new seed of doubt in someone who is already hurting is just plain bitter.
    Colleen

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    No, it's not bitter, it's reality. Since we are a question and answer site and not a complaint or venting forum, I gave you an answer based on my experience with needy people. Now you calling me bitter is actually a reflection of yourself. Pack up your kids and go be with him. This is what it will take to make you feel happy again. You're in charge of your life, no one else. Go make it happy again. Pythonlover said pretty much what I said except from a different angle. You chose that as a best answer. You know why he's staying away, don't you? Be honest with yourself. I'm too insightful for you to try and fool me. I say again, stop being so needy. He will come back when you can manage that.


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