Some people are so conscientious and want everything just right. They work hard at "perfection."
When it does not turn out as expected they accept full responsibility.
It is a real sensitive time for them as they go back to see what went wrong. Analysis and encouragement can break down the scenario expected and examine how other situations derailed the expectation or intended results. When he/she sees it was not all under his/her control he/she will be able to relax and forgive him/herself. Compliment the effort and help him/her learn from it.
|2 years ago. Rating: 5|
because when they're growing up, their parents tell them
1. They're lazy
2. They're going to have trouble with others later in life....when they grow up.
3. their parents always tell them how much better their brother or sister is.
4. their parents tell them what they think, say, or do isn't nice , or is stupid.
|2 years ago. Rating: 3|
Some people are hard on themselves because they have "set the bar" pretty high and try to live up to those expectations of themselves. If they aren't successful, they become overly critical of themselves instead of resetting their goals more realistically and taking things one step at a time. It's like trying to climb a ladder by starting at the 5th rung, which is a major stretch (and damn near impossible for nearly everyone, I'll wager).
There are others, though, who never accept responsibility for themselves in any way, shape, or form. I'd rather be too hard on myself than this way, but I'd much rather be realistic!
|1 year ago. Rating: 2|
It is natural to question oneself. If we make a mistake and feel no remorse we would never learn. Sometimes we beat up on ourselves in order to improve ourselves and learn humility. The best lessons often come in the form of bad things but that doesn't make a person bad unless they chose that.
|2 years ago. Rating: 1|