my boyfriends daughter hates me, WHAT DO I DO ?
My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years his daughter now "15" has always been hateful to me. when I met her she said was rude and then spit in her dads face . she had told him lies trying to split us up and it almost worked. I have busted her in many lies over the years (MAYBE THIS IS WHY SHE HATES ME I SEE RIGHT THROUGH HER ). when we go out and she takes a friend if the friend likes me or talks to me she then is mean to her friend. I am so sad, upset, heartbroken, bewildered,and discussed with her i could scream !
I know it is hard on him he wants to make us both happy now i try to stay away when she is with him , his has full custody of her she goes to her moms every other weekend , and for 5 weeks in the summer . I have to say when she is gone, Our relationship is so wonderful and we are so much in love . Her father and I have a lovely time with each other we go places do thing and it is very loving and special time.
I have always been kind to this young person , is this just the way teenage girls act towards their fathers mates ? I'm so lost. I have never had to deal with such a hateful , mean, nasty ,rude rude girl before.
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Her attitude may never change. Or, one day she might see the light and wake up. My girls had a very hard time when I met my current husband and one doesn't talk to me at all. The other daughter told me it was OK for her Dad to date but it wasn't OK for me.... that was when she was 16. Neither one came to my wedding... the younger one went to a Jack Johnson concert with her Dad and his girlfriend instead.
You are not alone... just be yourself and hope for the best. You can't make anyone like you... that's a fact Jack... Johnson!
Good Luck and Best Wishes.
|1 year ago. Rating: 18|
Been there, done that. The kid will win. The kids always win because the parents are not mature enough themselves to stand up to the kid's game playing. The parents live on guilt. I know you love him but you will remain miserable as long as he allows his daughter to control your relationship with him.
|1 year ago. Rating: 10|
As much as you find this girls behavior disturbing, i can totally understand where she is coming from, as far as she is concerned you came into her dads life where as her mom should have still been in it (not that this is your fault) of course she sees you as a threat to her and her fathers relationship and she will make things difficult for you hoping that you will just go away.Her behavior is her revenge on you. Having said that,she has to realize that it is not all about her anymore, you and her father deserve to be happy, has her father had a talk with her in regards to you being a part of their lives ?Sit her down and talk with her, tell her and show her that you are not the enemy you are there to be her friend and that you are a part of her dads life whether she likes it or not.
|1 year ago. Rating: 9|
I doubt you have done anything to her except be the woman her dad loves instead of her mother. Just say "Hello" and leave it at that. Cordial enough.
I think the REAL problem is her dad. He could think about the fact that he is allowing his daughter to develop into a b-i-t- .well, you know. SPITTING on her dad (or anyone else) is assault in my book. I'd get that girl into a therapist yesterday. She is going to have a real rough ride in life with that attitude.
|1 year ago. Rating: 9|
I think you both need to set some rules and stick to them, also support each other in enforcing and telling her that the behavior is not and will not be accepted, perhaps you could give her the option of living with her mother or boarding out at school, I would make it quite clear that you are the adults and it is you that sets the rules
|1 year ago. Rating: 9|
If someone doesn’t like you (anyone) just kind of ignore them. Don’t play games. Ignore. Walk away.
I haven’t read any comments, I have just had a very hard day and maybe I will change my mind.
These good people may have had good idea. It’s 3:40 am and I give .... I’ll read tomorrow.
|1 year ago. Rating: 6|
This is typical teenage girl behavior. It sounds like he lets her get away with anything, but he's on a guilt trip that he screwed up her life. It's not going to get any better, untill she grows up and has a baby of her own. Then, maybe she'll be nice to you. You won't have her living at home with him anymore, but he'll be giving her a LOT of money to pay her bills. Then, when she gets divorced, or breaks up with her boyfirend,, she'll be back at Dad's house again.
|1 year ago. Rating: 5|
“I cannot solve the problem because it is not my problem to solve…It is your problem. You are the only person who can solve this and I know you can. Such problems have one main factor…expectations are not met. Consider what you thought could or would happen and did not occur. Write it on a page and all the accessary considerations also. Write “stop" at the end of each line and repeat this process until you can no longer add anything to it. Burn the paper you wrote and write more when ever you like, repeating this process. Eventually you will see that you are responsible for all of the angry thoughts that fill your day with unpleasant thinking. Practice this process with whatever is unpleasant and soon happy thoughts will be the only thoughts you will choose to keep. I have been practicing this for 50 years and everyone who knows or meets me know me as a happy guy.
|5 months ago. Rating: 3|
My dilemma is that a very close friend of mine has passed away 5 years ago. I have been seeing her husband for 3 years. But the daughter who is 40 years old will not accept me in her dads life. I cant be with him ex. She just had a baby and I couldnt even share the excitement with him, couldnt go to hospital. He doesnt go to her house anymore because I am not allowed. To much to write it all.
This woman is also my goddaughter, I am beginng to think that I should step away because he nows says he will tell his daughter that he cant be in her or his grandsons life. I do not want to be the cause of that. He has tried to talk to her many times.
I dont want to do this, But I dont want him to miss out watching his grandson grow up. We are 61 and 58. Any advice
|1 year ago. Rating: 1|